No, really, it is. But you know what's not okay? Pretending they're perfectly fine, and that how they should be (because things have always been that way) and telling people who have a problem with those things that they are wrong, wrong, wrong (or worse).
I've seen this blog post before, and there are several other discussions in fandom about how to be a fan of problematic things, but Craig Michael Ranapia's comment on CJA's post on how to get your friends hooked on a show linked to it, and I think it really explains how I feel about it in much better ways than I can. I'm not gonna c/p the whole thing here, but it's absolutely worth reading in its entirety.
Liking problematic things doesn't make you an asshole. In fact, you can like really problematic things and still be not only a good person, but a good social justice activist (TM)! After all, most texts have some problematic elements in them, because they're produced by humans, who are well-known to be imperfect. But it can be surprisingly difficult to own up to the problematic things in the media you like, particularly when you feel strongly about it, as many fans do. We need to find a way to enjoy the media we like without hurting other people and marginalised groups. So with that in mind, here are my suggestions for things we should try our darnedest to do as self-confessed fans of problematic stuff.
The main points the post makes are absolutely spot on:
Firstly, acknowledge that the thing you like is problematic and do not attempt to make excuses for it. [...]
Secondly, do not gloss over the issues or derail conversations about the problematic elements. Okay, so you can admit that Dune is problematic. But wait, you're not done! You need to be willing to engage with people about it! It's not enough to be like "Ok, I admit that it's problematic that the major villain is a fat homosexual rapist, but come on, let's focus on the giant sandworms!". Shutting people down, ignoring or giving minimal treatment to their concerns, and refusing to fully engage with their issues is a form of oppression. Implicitly, you're giving the message that this person's feelings are less important than your own. In fact, in this case you're saying that their pain is less important than your enjoyment of a book, movie or tv show. So when people raise these concerns, listen respectfully and try to understand the views. Do not change the topic. [...]
Thirdly you must acknowledge other, even less favourable, interpretations of the media you like.
I was just going to share the comment, but I think this conversation warrants more of its own discussion space.
(ETA: Please don't mainpage.)