Because I think stories are important to give us examples of how to "human" basically. No one will argue that, it's a pretty obvious conclusion. But some stories have been skipped.

The rest of this is a bit navel-gazey and not very articulate so you are free to skip it and exit with a "...a Wonder Woman movie, so there!" conclusion.

But I was musing on all kinds of things this morning: about feminisming towards comics and porn, about how sometimes a woman character who is thought of to be written for men can still be inspiring towards women, about the reasons I prefer Black Widow in Captain America: The Winter Soldier more than any other MCU portrayal even though she had pretty solid characterization in The Avengers, about how I resent accusations of internalized-misogyny towards me and others if we just want to see a women lead who isn't necessarily point by point feminine - I was just musing on all this and not really willing to make noteworthy statements about it and naturally came out of it thinking I had the higher ground. (I have an ego too, I'm human.) But then...

I saw the post about Outlander and I was jolted with a reminder that I've instantly dismissed this show because just from reading the premise it screams the bland, boring same old, same old: a woman who is a nurse gets sent back in time - sure, fine, that's cool - but I am not ready to again sit and watch something that puts a female lead yet again as a passive element in a story about men and her purpose becomes navigating some dire obstacles to be with her soul mate from whichever time period. And I thought there must be some internalization there and was feeling a tad guilty about it because it's supposed to be a pro-woman work and haven't I consumed stories about men that are just endless repetition?

And then this essay comes along and I realize you know, I'm actually not entirely wrong - I am a woman and I consume mass media just like everyone else (although maybe not as much as the typical O-decker these days) and it's ok to be tired of one story and those yearnings for another story are actually not weird, because they have happened in reality. It happened, but it's not in our collective conciousness and when it does show up it gets insta-dismissed because we can't envision it. Or on a smaller level with examples from both sides of the coin gets shouted down with arguments about weaker upper body strength or how it's not a true representation due to the lack of "feminine" characteristics. So this essay rocks, because it tells us the stories are there, they've just been ignored. (For the most part, I mean of course there are always examples to the rule, in fact in the past I've argued that not crediting those is a disservice, but I mean widely embraced stories in popular culture.)